Understanding Fantasies

Understanding fantasies. Do fantasies pacify loneliness or do fantasies make loneliness worse? Is there a difference between fantasies in a healthy relationship and fantasies when you are not in a healthy relationship? Are fantasies a natural role of the brain that automatically occur? The brain is a processor that must stay active. Fantasies simply are a routine process of an active brain.

Creating unrealistic or improbable mental images is one aspect of fantasies but inventions are the products of fantasies. Fantasies do not seem to be random. There seems to be a specific focus and course that the fantasy takes. For instance, a solid romance or a planet without turmoil and pollution are fantasies that are not unrealistic or improbable.

Understanding dreams gives a person insight into themselves. Similarly, knowing what you delight in fantasizing about also provides a better self-understanding. That is just an opinion so do not lay it on your pillow and sleep with it. Fantasizing can be a way to briefly take you out of yourself and your everyday concerns. Still, it can also be a distraction. It can keep you from doing the things that you need to do.

Fantasies solve a psychological need, but it does not satisfy it because whatever the lacking is remains there. Someone is standing on a mountain top and scanning the horizon. As far as that someone can see there is a pristine forest. The sky is blue and empty of clouds. The temperature is moderate and there is a slight breeze. Surrounded by such peace and beauty, does someone need to fantasize?

Someone is sitting alone in a room. The clock has moved into another day. Sleep is as far away from this someone as the early morning hours of yesterday. Every tick of the clock on the wall sounds like an explosion into eternity. If given the chance this someone will recap all their past mistakes until a feeling of depression sets in. Can this someone afford the luxury of fantasizing under the circumstances?

Fantasizing is harmless when it is not about a specific person. Keeping the fantasy abstract and impersonal is key. If this is your fantasizing technique it is unlikely to cause anyone else harm. The detail of a fantasy is like a breath of air. It comes and goes. Nonetheless, the essence of the fantasy stays intact. It is like putting different actors in the same play using the same script. The camera is rolling. The sound equipment is properly adjusted for the next scene in the fantasy that will take place.

Understanding fantasies is a part of understanding your inner self. It reveals how you interact with this illusion called life. It also includes the certainty of your death. A frog is reminiscing near a pond about the things that its great grand frog told it. Of how clean the water used to be even when it was muddy. Of how there was an abundance of creatures that bathe and drink from it. Of how the rainwater that fell into it used to be nourishing. Of how the Indigenous people laughed and sang as they camped by the ponds bank. And now it has come to this.

Fantasizing is a temporary way of escaping reality, and a fantasy can become a reality. As with everything there is a good side and there is a bad side to fantasizing. The deeper one explores the nature of fantasies, the more skilled one becomes. This skill leads to developing a non-disruptive and nontoxic way of daydreaming.